Heartaches to Bellyaches. Recognizing and Calming Pandemic Stress in Our Kids (and Us)
Our children’s radar is relational. These days, we are all on edge living in isolation, fear, grief with no safety net. Except one. Here’s what can help our kids cope as we navigate the unknown.
Lu Hanessian, MSc
One day, when my now teenage son was six years-old, a bird flew into our window and died. He cried hard for the sweet creature. That night, under his covers, he whispered to me, “My whole body hurts, Mom. I can feel it.”
We’re all feeling it, now. Living and loving in isolation, blanketed by uncertainty, disoriented, frightened, flooded with fear. This crisis which has forced us into social avoidance has also pushed us to face deep discomforts brewing in us and our families. Stories of heartache and hardship are all around us, in our news, in our feeds, in our own homes.
We’re anxious. Confused. Making calculations for a future we can’t measure. Trying to keep things moving and ‘normal’ for our kids, even as we intuitively know that the old norms have collapsed and some of the old rules, in many ways, caused and held our pain.
We’re trying hard to see through our fog of anguish during these long days. Days blur. Breathing becomes shallow. Patience runs thin. Tempers flare. Tears flow…